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      April 25th - poem by Sue Ellen Cooper

ABC's of Red Hatting

4 levels of hatting (2 versions)

Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep

Thanks for food

THE LITTLE RED (HATTED) HEN- by Sue Ellen Cooper

I am too blessed to be stressed...

When I'm an Old Lady

SANDBAGS

FIVE STAGES OF A FEMALE LIFE

ATTRIBUTES THAT ARE SHOWN TO BE CONNECTED WITH SUCCESSFUL AGING:  

If friendships are not nurtured, 

Poem about: All this red hat jazz

Younger Days by Maya Angelou  

My Favorite Things" - by Julie Andrews

Red Hat song - Sung to tune of "Hey Hey We're the Monkees"

ABC's of Red Hatting

Thanks for this food

We thank you for this food, this day, and for all your many blessings. May we grow in love and kindness one to another day.

THE LITTLE RED (HATTED) HEN  I am climbing up on my soap box, waving my scepter in the air!  Here goes:

Remember the children’s story about the little red hen who wanted help in planting and tending a garden and doing all the other chores necessary to make a loaf of bread?  Remember how she asked the other animals to help her?  “Not I,” said the cat.  “Not I,” said the dog, and so forth.  So she wound up doing everything herself. When the fresh loaf of bread was warm from the oven, the other animals offered to help her eat it.  The little hen declined, reminding them that they had been unwilling to lift a finger to help her when she needed it.  They wanted all the benefits, but were willing to contribute nothing.    ... Sue Ellen Cooper  

I am too blessed to be stressed...
Someone will always be prettier.
They will always be smarter.
Their house will be bigger.
They will drive a better car.
Their children will do better in school.
And their husband will fix more things around the house.
So let it go, and love you and your circumstances.
Think about it.
The prettiest woman in the world can have hell in her heart.
And the richest woman you know (she's got the car, the house, the
clothes) might be lonely.
So, love you.
Love who you are right now.
"To the world you might be one person, but, to one person you just might
be the world".

Red Hat Song - sung to the tune of "Hey Hey We're the Monkees"

Now I lay me
Now I lay me down to sleep,
I pray the Lord my shape to keep,
Please no wrinkles, Please no bags
And please lift my butt before it sags.
Please no age spots, Please no gray,
And as for my belly please take it away.
Please keep me healthy, Please keep me young,
And thank you Dear Lord for all that you've done.



When I'm an Old Lady
From: Grandmom

When I'm an old lady, I'll live with each kid, and bring so much happiness
just as they did.
I want to pay back all the joy they've provided, returning each deed! Oh,
they'll be so excited!
(When I'm an old lady and live with my kids)

I'll write on the walls with reds, whites, and blues, I'll bounce on the
furniture while wearing my shoes.
I'll drink from the carton and then leave it out, I'll stuff all the toilets
and oh, how they'll shout!
(When I'm an old lady and live with my kids)

When they're on the phone and just out of reach, I'll get into things like
sugar and bleach.
Oh, they'll snap their fingers and then shake their head, and when that is
done, I'll hide under the bed!
(When I'm an old lady and live with my kids)

When they cook dinner and call me to eat, I'll not eat my green beans or
salad or meat, I'll gag on my okra, spill milk on the table, and when they
get angry, I'll run if I'm able!
(When I'm an old lady and live with my kids)

I'll sit close to the TV, through the channels I'll click; I'll cross both eyes
just to see if they stick.
I'll take off my socks and throw one away, and play in the mud until the end
of the day!
(When I'm an old lady and live with my kids)
And later in bed, I'll lay back and sigh; I'll thank God in prayer and then
close my eyes. My kids will look down with a smile slowly creeping, and say
with a groan, She's so sweet when she's sleeping!

God Bless All Moms and Grandmas Everywhere

 

SANDBAGS

Sandbags, hang from the sides of a hot air balloon to keep it on the ground.

In the same way, we are kept on the ground, prevented from soaring, because we have sandbags (fear, low self esteem, inertia) weighing down our balloons.

If we cast off those sandbags one by one, our balloons will begin to rise toward the sky, which is where they belong.

Ruby Redhat hopes to inspire us to follow her into the rarified atmosphere of freedom from self-limitation.

The Red Hat Society gives women the opportunity to

“live life large”  

FIVE STAGES OF A FEMALE LIFE

      1.    Grow up
2.    To fill out
3.    To slim down.
4.    To hold it in.
5.    To hell with it.

A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones

 

ATTRIBUTES THAT ARE SHOWN TO BE CONNECTED WITH SUCCESSFUL AGING:

v    Orientation toward the future. The ability to anticipate, to plant, and to hope.

v    Gratitude, forgiveness, and optimism. We need to see the glass as half-full, not half-empty.

v    Empathy. The ability to imagine the world as it seems to the other person.

v    The ability to reach out. We need to keep our doors open to others.  

If friendships are not nurtured, they wither.

Harvard Medical School claims that the more friends women have, the less likely they were to develop health problems as they aged.

 Being part of a community of caring friends is not a luxury;
it is essential
.  

 

Younger Days by Maya Angelou

 When I was in my younger days, I weighed a few pounds less.

I needn't hold my tummy in to wear a belted dress.

But now that I am older, I've set my body free:

There's the comfort of elastic where once my waist would be.

Inventors of those high-heeled shoes my feet have not forgiven.

I have to wear a nine now, but used to wear a seven.

And how about those pantyhose..They're sized by weight, you see.

So how come when I put them on the crotch is at my knee?

I need to wear these glasses as the print's been getting smaller;

And it wasn't very long ago, I know that I was taller.

Though my hair has turned to gray and my skin no longer fits,

On the inside, I'm the same old me, its the outside's changed a bit.

 

As Queen of RazZmaTazZ
Women ask about all this
Red Hat jazz.
How to start a brand new chapter.
How to ensure there will be lots of laughter.

Off I go with my big tote bag full of goodies.
We brain storm, share and “shoot the breeze”.
Learning about the dis-organization.
Trying to decide what will be this creation.

Choosing a name is a big to-do.
Learning about the group gives a clue.
A play on words gives meaning
Pride in the name causes preening.

Delegate, delegate, delegate...
Before the Queen gets a headache.
What are those job titles rare?
Duchess, Countess...a Princess to spare.

How to make this new group unique?
How to reach the
Red Hat heartbeat?
Lots of royal craziness with great ceremony.
To the
Red Hat Society give testimony.

Where to go on your
Red Hat 
How to dress for these crazy sightings?
Will you sip tea or hike with a llama,
Eat fancy tea sandwiches or soak in a sauna?

Not too much planning...let it flow.
Your
Red Hat chapter will grow and glow.
Remember times to laugh with glee
Over life, age and a shopping spree.

Enjoy this
Red Hat experience.
It’s not supposed to make any sense.
Learn to let loose and be free.
Arm-in-arm
Red Hat sisters giggle with glee.

To the newly formed chapters far and near
That is what
Red Hatters do without fear.
Challenge this aging process with elation.
Add spice, laughter and jubilation.

Glad to share what this is all about.
Helping others to cheer and shout.
Cock your
Red Hat and join the group.
Wear purple & red ...let out a joyful whoop.

by Barbara, Queen RazZ
RazZmaTazZ chapter, San Diego, CA
(used with permission)

To commemorate her 69th birthday actress/vocalist Julie Andrews made a special appearance at Manhattan's Radio City Music Hall for the benefit of the AARP.  One of the musical numbers she performed was "My Favorite Things" from the legendary movie "Sound Of Music." 
However, the lyrics of the song were deliberately changed for the entertainment of her "blue hair" audience. 
Here are the lyrics she recited:
 
 Maalox and nose drops and needles for knitting,
 Walkers and handrails and new dental fittings,
 Bundles of magazines tied up in string,
 These are a few of my favorite things.
 Cadillac's and cataracts and hearing aids and glasses
 Polident and Fixodent and false teeth in glasses,
 Pacemakers, golf carts and porches with swings,
 These are a few of my favorite things.
 When the pipes leak,
 When the bones creak,
 When the knees go bad
 I simply remember my favorite things,
 And then I don't feel so bad.
 
Hot tea and crumpets, and corn pads for bunions,
No spicy hot food or food cooked with onions,
Bathrobes and heat pads and hot meals they bring,
These are a few of my favorite things.
Back pains, confused brains, and no fear of sinnin',
Thin bones and fractures and hair that is thinnin',
And we won't mention our short shrunken frames,
When we remember our favorite things.
 
When the joints ache,
when the hips break,
When the eyes grow dim,
Then I remember the great life I've had,
And then I don't feel so bad.

Ms. Andrews received a standing ovation from the crowd that lasted over four minutes and repeated encores.

 

Sung to the tune of -Hey,Hey we're The Monkees !!
 
Here we come
Walking down the street
We get the funniest looks from
Everyone we meet
 
 
Hey,hey we're the Red Hatters
and people say we're kind of loud
But we're too busy singing
to put anybody down
 
We go wherever we want to
Do what we like to do
We don't have time to get restless
There's always something new
 
Hey,hey we're the Hatters
and people say we monkey around
But we're too busy havin fun
to put anybody down
 
We're just trying to be friendly
Come and watch us sing and play
We're the old generation
And we got something to say!
 
Any time, or anywhere,
Just look over your shoulder
Guess who’ll be standing there

 
Hey,hey we're the Hatters
You never know where we'll be found
So you better get ready!
We may be comin to your town!
 
Hey,hey we're the Red Hatters
and people say we're kinda loud
But we're too busy playing
to put anybody down!

 

 

 

The ABCs of Red Hat Society Friendship

A Friend Accepts you as you are.

Believes in "you".

Calls you just to say "Hi"!

Doesn't give up on you.

Envisions the whole of you (even the unfinished parts).

Forgives your mistakes.

Gives unconditionally.

Helps you

Is there for you when you need her.

Just wants to "be" with you.

Keeps you close at heart.

Loves you for who you are.

Makes a difference in your life.

Never judges.

Offers support.

Picks you up.

Quiets your fears.

Raises your spirits.

Says nice things about you.

Tells you the truth when you need to hear it.

Understands you.

Values you.

Walks beside you.

X-plains things you don't understand.

Yells when you won't listen.

Zaps you back to reality.

So …Consider Red Hatters your friends!

4 LEVELS OF HATTING:

Level 1 "HIGHLY INVOLVED" as with Queens and a few members - not only do they wear the colors but enjoy gaudying and glitzing up - reading & posting on the QMB - attending area & national conventions -- corresponds with other ladies in other chapters -- collect anything red & purple -- have little purple friends -- and enjoys talking about the RHS.

1.B - CHAPTER OF ONE.-- There is much to be said good about this approach. She can meet with other Queens, chapters, and attend large events. She can Red Hat as much or as little as she wishes.

Level 2 "NORMALLY INVOLVED" -- wears the colors, has fun, RSVP on time -- but doesn't read or post on the QMB -- in between gatherings may or may not enjoy talking about RHS.

Level 3 "BARELY INVOLVED" -- wears the colors but doesn't really like to (wears them only because they have to) -- there are times they do not wear hats or purple -- waits to the last minute to RSVP -- and tend to sit and talk with the same ladies.

Level 4 "DON'T KNOW WHY THEY EVEN BOTHER": won't wear a hat -- thinks a speck of purple is purpling up -- won't RSVP -- has to be called and reminded -- sits only with certain ladies -- and this list goes on.

But here are some things that can happen:

Some of "Level 2" ladies, after a few gatherings get all excited and really blossom into glorious Red Hatters -- it just takes them a little time to gaudy up.

With "Level 3" -- a few may blossom but more than likely the most we can expect from them is to grow into being "Level 2". Talking with these ladies about the importance of RSVPing on time may or may not work.

That leaves "Level 4" - We think these ladies either aren't ready for the RHS, or they are just the sort of woman that is not happy and will never be happy no matter what they do.
There may be hope for "Level 3" but personally I see no hope for "Level 4" -- the "Level 4s" seem to drop out after a while.

 And

 Within a chapter there seems to be 4 Levels of involvement:

Level 1 “Highly involved” as with Queens and a few members – not only do they wear colors but enjoy gaudying and glitzing up- read & post on QMB – attend area & national conventions – corresponds with other ladies in other chapters – collect anything red & purple – have little purple friends – and enjoys talking about the RHS

Level 2 “Normally involved” – wears colors – has fun – RSVP on time - but doesn’t read or post QMB – in between gatherings may or may not enjoy talking about RHS –

Level 3 “Barely involved” – wears colors but doesn’t really like to (wears them only because they have to) – there are times they do not wear hats or purple - waits to last minute to RSVP – tends to sit and talk with the same ladies –

Level 4 “Don’t know why they even bother”: won’t wear a hat - thinks a speck of purple is purpling up – won’t RSVP – has to be called & reminded – sits only with certain ladies and this list goes on and on.

I have observed over the past year that the following can happen:
Some of “Level 2” ladies after a few gatherings get all excited and really blossom into glorious red hatters – it just takes them a little time to gaudy up.

With “Level 3” a few may blossom but more than likely the most we can expect from them is to grow into being “Level 2”. Talking with these ladies about RSVP on time may or may not work

That leaves “Level 4”– I really think these ladies either aren’t ready for the RHS, going through something at this time – or they are just the sort of woman that is not happy and will never be happy no matter what they do.

There may be hope for “Level 3” but personally I see no hope for “Level 4” – the “Level 4s” seem to drop out after awhile.

All said and done - there is only so much we can do to with some women - We can plan fun and exciting gatherings and lead by personal example BUT we can not dress them -keep calling them about reservations - hold there hand, pamper them or spoon feed them fun & silliness -
HooRay for the Red & Purple!!!!!!!!!!
------------------
FQM Lady Sara
Yellow Roses of Texas est. July 8,2002
Living life large in a small way!

In honour of April 25th Sue Ellen Cooper wrote this poem… about the first get-together wearing their red hats…

Like Sue Ellen and her friend Linda – in January 2005 ???  Lynda, Bev, Gail, Edna, and Carole met for lunch. Lynda and Gail met on the RHS’s QMB and decided after speaking on the phone a few times, to meet in person. Gail mentioned that Carole asked to join and Lynda invited Bev and so our little group grew! Did it ever. We had such a great time that day that we decided to meet every month. We then learned that another group was meeting as we were and they named themselves the Queen’s Council so we followed suit and names ourselves that too. From those 5 chapters we grew to almost 80 chapters?

 

In friendship,
Sue Ellen & All Of Us At Hatquarters

 

A Birthday Poem from Sue Ellen

APRIL 25

The year was nineteen ninety-eight
And on one special day
A group of girlfriends joined their hands
And ventured out to play.

They went to feast on scones and tea
On April twenty-fifth
They never could have guessed this thought
Would prove to be a gift!

Around the lacy tablecloth
They sipped and munched and chatted
In shades of purple they were garbed
And each one was red hatted!

Drinking tea and giggling
They had their best time, ever
When had they shared such fun before?
The answer? It was never!

So they decided on the spot
They'd meet like this again.
They'd ask their other friends to come
And tell them where and when.

This new "Red Hat Society"
(Yes, that's the name they chose)
Began that very afternoon
As everybody knows.

Now friendship, fun and sisterhood
Are spreading 'round the world
'Cause nothing is as fun, it seems,
As playing with the girls!

 

 

 

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